Are women better off, now?

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Tamar put ashes on her head and tore her long-sleeved garment which was on her; and she put her hand on her head and went away, crying aloud as she went. - 2Samuel 13:19

The CDC just updated its stats on the prevalence of sexually transmitted disease in these United States. Those carrying Syphillis, Hepatitis B, Trichomonlasis, Chlamydia, Human Papillomavirus, Gonorrhea, or Human Immunodeficiency Virus now stand at 110,197,000.

New infections run around 20,000,000 each year with the latest year on record (2008) at 19,738,800. Young men and women 15-24 years of age represent over fifty percent of all new STD infections.

Of the 110 million infected, 50,627,400 are men and 59,569,500 women...

When I was Executive Director of the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, I used to hear one of the more prominent men who had founded the organization regularly say that feminism had been good for the church because it had caused the church to recognize and repent of its ill-treatment of women across the centuries.

Here's a principle you may bank on. Any time you hear someone apologizing for the sins of his father or grandfather rather than his own, take the mic from him and tell him to sit down and be quiet. The ease with which we diss and dismiss our dead fathers today is sickening. It's time to take responsibility for our own sins—God knows precisely how many and how awful they are. And this is not to say I believe it's never right to confess the sins of fathers. It can be right and good, but if it's done, it should be in the context of an even more fulsome confession of my own sin so I come off to those listening as worse than my father—not better. Inferior. Not superior.

But is it even true? Are women better off today than they were in the days of our fathers and grandfathers?

No, of course not.

First, women today are led as much as they've always been, but now the leadership is awful. In the day of our grandfathers, women were led forthrightly whereas now they're led surreptitiously. Our grandfathers led women to submit whereas we lead them to rebel. Our grandfathers treated women as moral agents and called them to repent of feminine sins whereas we treat them as victims and deny there are feminine sins.

But beyond leadership, take any objective measure of the well-being of the weaker sex and the stats are eye-popping. STDs for instance: did you notice the disparity between men and women? It's huge and the physical consequences for women are more serious, as well. Ectopic pregnancies and cervical cancer, for instance.

Move on to the damage to women's bodies caused by various forms of contraception and birth control. The cost to women's health of constant hormone ingestion throughout their childbearing years is something no one anywhere wants to know. Then there's the IUD, ECPs, and RU-486.

Move on to abortion. If you believe in the immortality of the soul and God's judgment, what do you think God will say and do to those not clothed in the foreign righteousness of Jesus Christ who have murdered one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, or eight of their unborn children through the Pill or an IUD, one round of an ECP, and maybe a chemical and surgical abortion or two? Do Jesus' words about those who harm little children have no application to mothers who murder their unborn children?

But forget about the Last Judgment and think about this life, even; what do you think the suffering of mothers is who have been forced by their fathers and boyfriends to kill their little one? Do you think they feel guilty? Do you think they mourn for him? Do you think their preacher speaks to them about their abortion, explicitly, and shows them the path to repentance and forgiveness? What horrors are born by women who have the blood of their babies on their hands and cannot find a man of God to help with their cleansing!

Shall I go on to speak of how many mothers, after they bear the marks of motherhood on their bodies, are abandoned by their husbands for younger flesh? How many of these mothers are forced to raise fatherless and father-hungering sons and daughters? How many mothers watch as their new husband molests their stepdaughters? How many mothers live in the poverty which is the absolutely predictable and certain fruit of that wicked connivance at wickedness known as no-fault divorce?

Shall I go on? I haven't yet spoken of the number of deadbeats there are out there who are happy to live off their wives' earnings and then demand their wives do the lion's share of childcare and housework when they get home each day. I haven't yet spoken of the cost women bear of the loss of the privileges and dignity of their femininity due to being forced into leadership positions where, ironically, they are dissed by the New York Times calling them the "Iron Lady."

Shall I go on? What about the death of modesty? Feminine deference? Innocence? What about the explosive growth in women's use of pornography—women comprise 30% of internet pornography use, now. What about the explosive growth of women in prison for violent crimes? What about women providing for their husbands and children by serving in harm's way in the armed forces? Shall I go on?

The conceit that women today are better off than their grandmothers in any respect—any respect at all—is proof either that we are blind or that we are liars on the scale of Goebbels, Pol Pot, Mao, and Stalin.

Listen, abortion is the bloody hoodwinking men have pulled off on mothers to facilitate our sexual depredations of the weaker sex, and the numbers of babies murdered by mothers around the world now are in the billions.  Does God not see? Is God not just? Will those who have committed this wickedness not be consumed by the fire of His wrath?

Yet the U.S. armed forces and diplomatic corps travel around the globe making the world safe for democracy and justifying our so-called democracy (in which the unborn have no vote) by posturing ourselves as woman's liberator.

The gaul! We are liars. Women today are not better off than their grandmothers. They are much, much worse off, starting with poverty and sexually transmitted diseases, and ending on the Day of Judgment.

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One woman recently commented "I don't usually leave this blog feeling better about myself, God, or anyone else for that matter..." I'm guessing the above post will only add to your depression, but it shouldn't. Rather we might expect it to give oppressed women joy to see this Scriptural diagnosis of the state of their sex today, and multiply their knowledge of God's grace and mercy to finally hear a statement of how much we need the blood of Jesus Christ to cleanse us from the horror of our sin. 

In other words, knowing how much we have to be forgiven should multiply our love for our Savior.

"For this reason I say to you, her sins, which are many, have been forgiven, for she loved much; but he who is forgiven little, loves little.”

Then He said to her, “Your sins have been forgiven."

                                                - Luke 7:47,48

Tim Bayly

Tim serves Clearnote Church, Bloomington, Indiana. He and Mary Lee have five children and big lots of grandchildren.

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