September 2004

Sitcom fathers...

Milking the "Sunday Styles" section to the bitter end, these summary statements concerning the view of fathers promulgated by the sitcoms this fall appeared in the article, "Beta Male: Father Eats Best," by Rick Martin:

As a former television critic, I'm no longer required by law to spot fall-season trends, but some are too disturbing to ignore. Like how all family sitcoms--virtually all sitcoms now--are about a fat guy with a hot wife... And they're not just fat. They're lazy beer-and-TV slobs who never lift a finger around the house, have barely met their kids and think an emotion is something you only express on the Back Nine.

Fall sitcoms paint the modern dad as a bulky buffoon.

-"Beta Male: Father Eats Best" by Rick Martin, September 26, 2004, New York Times.

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What style mother suits you...

Ever wondered how couples choose a mother for their child? Well wonder no longer. Again the NYT's "Sunday Styles" section obliges us with the answer in the form of a prominently placed ad with the following copy:

DONOR EGG

IMMEDIATE AVAILABILITY

The internationally renowned donor egg program at Genetics & IVF Institute, based in suburban Washington, DC, has long met the high expectations of sophisticated patients and medical specialists from around the world. We offer approximately 100 fully prescreened donors immediately available for matching and utilization by our patients. These donors include many Doctoral Donors in advanced degree programs (sic), and numerous other egg donors with special accomplishments, talents, or ethnicity...

Life begins at the Genetics & IVF Institute!

-ad from September 26, 2004 New York Times (emphases in the original)

Presented a choice between an egg donated by a Brown University PhD candidate and a Nashville belle working in a church day care center, which would it be? And between a graduate of the Kellogg School of Management at Northwestern University and the daughter of a baptist minister in western Nebraska who, since graduating from high school, has clerked at Walmart? And between a cheerful coal miner's daughter who lives in eastern Kentucky's Letcher County, and an oceanographer from La Jolla who works at Scripps?

Well, with all due respect for these honored representatives of the "Doctoral Donor" class, as far as I'm concerned it ain't even close. Let's hear it for church day care, Walmart, and Letcher County coal mines.

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Seinfeld's boys...

Again, a life-changing tidbit from yesterday's "Sunday Styles" section of the New York Times:

The message of the book is a poignant one: men are selfish, phobic, disconnected emotional thugs, and bright, pretty young women seem desperate to have them...

-from Penelope Greens review of He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, in "Books of Style," New York Times, September 26, 2004.

Yes, there are some; but to call them "men" is a bit over-the-top.

They're more like Seinfeld clones, and who's to blame more than the very media types making money off this book and this review.

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Speeches and sermons...

Assuming that, when the normal American goes through church doors, he doesn't go through a paradigm shift about the nature of leadership, it's interesting to note what the secular authorities advise concerning the speeches of Bush and Kerry:

(Kerry) uses what George P. Lakoff, a professor of linguistics at the University of California, Berkley, calls "hedges," words and grammatical constructions that imply uncertainty or qualification.

"There are certain forms of grammar that don't commit you, phrases like 'I believe' or 'I think,'" Mr. Lakoff said. "Kerry has to learn not to do that."

"It is possible to be decisive and not sound decisive," said Kathleen Hall Jamieson, the director of the Annenberg Public Policy Center at the University of Pennsylvania. "People who speak in sentences that contain parenthetical phrases, people who begin a sentence and then deflect to add a series of illustrative examples before they end the sentences" do not seem authoritative, she said. "The language of decisiveness is subject, verb, object, end sentence." (Alex Williams, "George 'The Squinter' Bush vs. John 'The Grinner' Kerry--A Showdown of Style!" New York Times; Sunday, September 26, 2004.)

And what of pastors? Do we use "hedges?" Do we preach in a way that "implies uncertainty?" Are we careful to "qualify" our proclamations?

If so, our preaching "does not seem authoritative" to the souls we have been called to shepherd. Nuanced, yes; but not authoritative.

How sobering is that? What a contrast to the preaching of the prophets, apostles, and our Lord Himself:

Now the word of the LORD came to me saying, "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, And before you were born I consecrated you; I have appointed you a prophet to the nations." (Jeremiah 1:4, 5)

As we have said before, so I say again now, if any man is preaching to you a gospel contrary to what you received, he is to be accursed! For am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I striving to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ. For I would have you know, brethren, that the gospel which was preached by me is not according to man. For I neither received it from man, nor was I taught it, but I received it through a revelation of Jesus Christ. (Galatians 1:9-12).

For truly I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away, not the smallest letter or stroke shall pass from the Law until all is accomplished. Whoever then annuls one of the least of these commandments, and teaches others to do the same, shall be called least in the kingdom of heaven; but whoever keeps and teaches them, he shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven. (Matthew 5:18,19)

Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine and acts on them, may be compared to a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and yet it did not fall, for it had been founded on the rock. Everyone who hears these words of Mine and does not act on them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. The rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and it fell--and great was its fall."

When Jesus had finished these words, the crowds were amazed at His teaching; for He was teaching them as one having authority, and not as their scribes.(Matthew 7:24-29)

Presidential/pastoral leadership...

Page one of the New York Time's "Sunday Styles" section carried a piece by Alex Williams on the upcoming presidential debates titled, "George 'The Squinter' Bush vs. John 'The Grinner' Kerry--A Showdown of Style!" Here are some excerpts:

...the candidate who voters perceive as the winner will probably be chosen not on the substance of what he says, but on the cut of his jib. The subtle style cues... account for as much as 75 percent of a viewer's judgement... the mano a mano is about style--those nonverbal messages that speak to hearts, not heads.

...in some sense it comes down to which man you would want in your living room for the next four years.

...even one deftly delivered witticism, as long as it seems spontaneous (like Reagan's "There you go again" in 1980) could be the deciding factor.

Each candidate must channel his gifts as an onstage communicator--that is, a thespian--said Susan Batson, a longtime acting coach. (Kerry's) greatest opportunity... is to laugh more, to radiate a vulnerability with his eyes, a sense of compassion and wisdom, as opposed to single-mindedness and aggression. He can be "sort of a combination of Henry Fonda and James Stewart," she said.

Note there's nothing here of substance. The entire discussion centers around the candidate's ability to cop a posture or to be an actor, to put his audience at ease. Even taking into account that the piece appeared in the "Sunday Style," rather than the more weighty "Week in Review" section, it's clear the debates are expected to be the pivotal event of this election. And Williams points out that campaign experts expect "hearts, not heads" to prevail in the conclusions voters draw from the debates.

So what does this say about our view of leadership? If our president must put us at ease as we sit with him in our living room, could Abraham Lincoln or Winston Churchill carry an election today? No, it's doubtful either Lincoln or Churchill "radiated vulnerability with their eyes."

But to get really serious, what does this say about pastoral leadership today? If presidents are picked with little concern for substance, but an overwhelming emphasis on "subtle cues," "non-verbal messages," deftly delivered witticisms" that "seem spontaneous," and their ability to "radiate vulnerability," no wonder our seminaries are turning out men who have few leadership skills.

If "single-mindedness" and "aggression" are a liability to John Kerry, one wonders which church in which suburb and denomination would issue a call to Jesus or the Apostle Paul? And anyone who responds saying that a different philosophy of leadership prevails among biblical churches should pull his head out of the sand.

Divided we translate...

(Note from Tim Bayly: Again, this piece is by Dr. Andrew Dionne, Assistant Pastor at my brother, David's, congregation, Christ the Word (PCA) in Toledo, Ohio.)

It's common for stockbrokers and political moderates to hope for a split between the party that controls the office of the President and the party that holds a majority in at least one of the houses of Congress. Either gridlock ensues, which limits the government's micromanagement and makes fiscal conservatives happy, or the parties work together to form middle-of-the-road compromise solutions, which make moderates glow with satisfaction. Jonathan Rauch, in his article "Divided We Stand" published in Atlantic Monthly (October 2004), explains the hoped-for results:

Divided control...draws policy toward the center; and by giving both parties a stake in governing, it can lower the political temperature so that even daring changes (tax reform, welfare reform) seem moderate. In other words, divided control makes the country more governable.

What is desired in politics, though, stands in stark contrast to the single-minded unity that is to characterize those who lead the Body of Christ. Paul writes to the factious Corinthians, "Now I exhort you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you all agree, and there be no divisions among you, but you be made complete in the same mind and in the same judgment" (1 Cor. 1:10). In his second letter to the Corinthians, Paul writes, "Finally, brethren, rejoice, be made complete, be comforted, be like-minded, live in peace..." (2 Cor. 13:11). The Philippians receive Paul's exhortation to be unified: "Only conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ; so that whether I come and see you or remain absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel..." (Phil. 1:27).

Having witnessed the work of several elder boards I have come to realize that the blessed boards are those whose decisions are largely unanimous--though passionate arguments are had along the way. This unity is not enforced

Double-minded men, unstable in all their ways...

(Note from Tim Bayly: Here's a piece written by Dr. Andrew Dionne, a former member of our congregation who now serves as assistant pastor to my brother, David, at Christ the Word in Toledo, Ohio. Andrew has followed the battle over gender-neutral Bible translations for years and edits a web site that is a ministry of Church of the Good Shepherd called keptthefaith.org. You'll find the site a rich source of information on this matter. Check it out and make a contribution.)

It has long been my hunch that the International Bible Society and her Committee on Bible Translation (the organizations responsible for the translation of the popular New International Version) had plans to produce a neutered version of Scripture from the very beginning of the NIV. This enterprise was revealed when the IBS and CBT (along with their bed-fellow Zondervan) published the New International Version Inclusive Language Edition in early 1997. Evangelical leaders were encouraged shortly thereafter when IBS repented and, in a May 27, 1997 press release, promised to "forego all plans to develop a revised edition of the NIV."

Picketing Bloomington's abortuary...

Some meditations on a morning picketing in front of Bloomington's abortuary where, this day, about ten mothers entered a building intent on paying a medical doctor around $300 to kill their unborn child:

Two thirds of those picketing are Roman Catholics, and this has been consistent since I first picketed twelve years ago. Although I'm grateful for the zeal the Roman Catholic church shows and passes on to her congregants on life issues, it's scandalous that Protestants (and particularly reformed Protestants) are relatively careless about these things. Would our Lord be careless? Would He steer away from the scenes of death in our fair cities? Would He have nothing to say to a young woman on the arm of her boyfriend walking into that hell-hole? Would He be careless about her soul, tossing off a flippant, "Let the pagans kill their babies if they're so inclined?"

The men there think that women are better fitted for the public work opposing abortion, and it is a constant theme of those who resent our presence that as men we ought not to be there, but let women be the public face of the pro-life movement. I disagree.

Men are called to defend life, whether that defense is carried out in the contest for public opinion and the shaming of those who oppress the little ones, or on the battlefields of the Mideast. How soft are Christian men today who are pleased to send their mothers and daughters and wives into the fray of battle, assuaging their consciences by saying "It's better that a woman speak on this issue." Exactly when was it that God ceased calling men to defend the lives of the weak and oppressed, the old and young, the born and unborn?

A seventy-year-old man gave me the finger as he drove by, lifting his arm between his head and the window so his wife wouldn't see it. What was that about?

How sickening to see an old man facing the winter of his life and hating another man holding up a sign saying "Abortion kills children." Putting the best/worst construction on it, maybe he once had a daughter caught in a crisis pregnancy and he encouraged her to have an abortion? But I'd be willing to put money on it that this man's conscience is killing him. May he come to Jesus for the forgiveness of sin, as I have and do.

Speaking of the conscience, I'll never forget Joe Sobran's observation some ten or fifteen years ago that "The guilt over abortion is the fuel that drives feminism." Yes, I have never questioned the truth of his statement, and often meditate on it when I see the anger and hatred of our nation for those who speak up for the unborn.

Being a Christian involves saying both God's 'yes' and His 'no.'

Christians today want to avoid saying God's 'no,' and this is a large part of the reason that our community can get out hundreds of souls to come to the crisis pregnancy center's banquet and the walk for life, but can hardly put together ten souls one morning a week to stand and witness against the killing going on in Planned Parenthood's building on South Walnut Street.

Both must be done; neither neglected. God's "Yes," certainly. But also His "No!"

I must admit to my own guilt in this matter. I have not been faithful as I ought in opposing abortion and supporting the crisis pregnancy center. May God forgive me and help me to serve the needy as I ought.

Finally, last night we had a delightful little curly-haired two-year-old at our dinner table who was saved from Bloomington's abortuary. His mother was walking into the killing place and one of our elders' wives called out to her saying we would do anything necessary to help her carry her little one to term. Shortly afterward, the young woman walked back out of the abortuary and took our elder's wife's phone number. Two months later, she called this woman and told her that she was willing to receive our help, and to place her child up for adoption in a good home.

A couple in our church adopted this little boy and now his cherubic face graces our services, nursery, parking lot, and dinner tables. Pray for him, his father and mother, will you? That God will use them as witnesses to the grace and love of Jesus Christ to all who repent and believe.

Preaching: what the echo answers...

Another word from Kierkegaard:

Folios and folios have been written to show again and again how one is to recognize what true Christianity is. This can be done in a far simpler way.

Nature is ... acoustic. Only heed what the echo answers, and thou shalt know at once what is what.

So when in this world one preaches Christianity in such a way that the echo answers: "Glorious, profound, serious-minded Christian, thou shouldst be exalted to princely rank," etc., know then that this signifies his preaching of Christianity is, Christianly, a base lie. It is not absolutely certain that he who walks with fetters on his legs is a criminal, for there are instances when the civil magistrate has condemned an innocent man; but it is eternally certain that he who--by preaching Christianity!--wins all things earthly is a liar, a deceiver, who at one point or another has falsified the doctrine, which by God has been so designed, in such a militant relation to this world, that it is eternally impossible to preach what Christianity is in truth without having to suffer in this world, to be repudiated, hated, cursed.

When one preaches Christianity in such a way that the echo answers, "He is mad," know then that this signifies that there are considerable elements of truth in his preaching, without its being, however, the Christianity of the New Testament. He may have hit the mark; but presumably he does not press hard enough, either by his oral preaching or by the preaching of his life, so that, Christianly speaking, he glides over too easily, his preaching after all is not the Christianity of the New Testament.

But when one preaches Christianity in such a way that the echo answers, "Away with that man from the earth, he does not deserve to live," know then that this is the Christianity of the New Testament. Without change since the time of our Lord Jesus Christ, capital punishment is the penalty for preaching Christianity as it truly is: hating oneself to love God; hating oneself to hate everything in which one's life consists, everything to which one clings, for the sake of which one selfishly would desire to have God's aid to get it, or to console one that one did not get it, console one for the loss of it--without any change capital punishment is the penalty for preaching this in character.

-Soren Kierkegaard, Attack Upon "Christendom," (Boston: Beacon Press, 1956), pp. 278-79.

Doctrinally orthodox and blandly inoffensive...

A brother in Christ comments on an earlier post: "Today in America, the opportunities for a doctrinally orthodox pastor to maintain a bland inoffensiveness don't seem all that great."

To the contrary.

As a lawyer-friend of mine once put it concerning the preaching of his church in another state, "With the indicative, can't we please have the imperative?"

Or as a Bible Study Fellowship leader from one of my former churches put it, "It's not up to the preacher to apply the text--that's the job of the Holy Spirit. He is the One who should convict of sin, not you."

There is a relentless opposition to pastors preaching in such a way as to apply the text to the lives of their congregants, to preach to the conscience and not just the mind, and to call for repentance. In fact, there is a relentless opposition to pastors who move past teaching, to preaching.

This opposition is documented across church history and in the Scriptures. Consider Jesus' summary statement concerning Jerusalem:

Therefore, behold, I am sending you prophets and wise men and scribes; some of them you will kill and crucify, and some of them you will scourge in your synagogues, and persecute from city to city, so that upon you may fall the guilt of all the righteous blood shed on earth, from the blood of righteous Abel to the blood of Zechariah, the son of Berechiah, whom you murdered between the temple and the altar. Truly I say to you, all these things will come upon this generation. Jerusalem, Jerusalem, who kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to her! How often I wanted to gather your children together, the way a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were unwilling. Behold, your house is being left to you desolate! For I say to you, from now on you will not see Me until you say, "BLESSED IS HE WHO COMES IN THE NAME OF THE LORD!" (Matthew 23:34-39)

Speaking of the absence of danger in the preaching of his day, Kierkegaard was pointing out what is true here today--that pastors have given up preaching, settling for truisms, velveteen rabbit stories, and nostrums. We have given up working for the salvation of the souls we were called to guard and have settled for working for the building of our kingdoms or the maintenance of our lifestyles. And when security becomes the greatest good, danger must be removed. But not in too obvious a way.

If it's too obvious, the pastor might be exposed as the charlatan he is, holding the sinecure he does, and then the gig would be up. So we must act as if we're shepherds, good shepherds, and preachers and prophets, but do it in such a way as to avoid danger scrupulously. Give the congregants drama, all the drama they want, but fill the gun's barrel with blanks.

No, the market for "doctrinally orthodox pastors (who) maintain a bland inoffensiveness" continues to be a bull market.

Shopkeeper or shepherd...

Still more from the wise Danish curmudgeon:

It is pretty much the same now with the modern clergyman: a nimble, adroit, lively man, who in pretty language, with the utmost ease, with graceful manners, etc., knows how to introduce a little Christianity, but as easily as possible. In the New Testament, Christianity is the profoundest wound that can be inflicted upon a man, calculated on the most dreadful scale to collide with everything--and now the clergyman has perfected himself in introducing Christianity in such a way that it signifies nothing, and when he is able to do this to perfection he is regarded as a paragon. But this is nauseating! Oh, if a barber has perfected himself in removing the beard so easily that one hardly notices it, that's well enough; but in relation to that which is precisely calculated to wound, to perfect oneself so as to introduce it in such a way that if possible it is not noticed at all--that is nauseating.

-Soren Kierkegaard in Attack Upon "Christendom" 1854-1855, translated with an introduction by Walter Lowrie, The Beacon Press, Boston, 1956, p. 258.

The gates of hell shall not prevail...

No time like the present to send out another of Kierkegaard's gems:

Imagine a fortress, absolutely impregnable, provisioned for an eternity. There comes a new commandant. He conceives that it might be a good idea to build bridges over the moats--so as to be able to attack the besiegers. Charmant! He transforms the fortress into a countryseat, and naturally the enemy takes it.

So it is with Christianity. They changed the method--and naturally the world conquered.

-Soren Kierkegaard, Attack Upon "Christendom," (Princeton University Press, 1944), p. 138.

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