Earlier today, I wrote this in an e-mail to a dear friend whose father-in-law died in his home a month ago...
How sweet that you were able to care for (your wife's) parents (and that your father-in-law was able to die in your home).
As you may know, Mary Lee cared for my father's ...sister in our home the last six years of her life, the final two of which she was reduced to doing nothing herself other than eating. It was hard on Mary Lee, but a very sweet death. Then, this past year, Mother died in David's home after six years living with him and his wife and children. She had Alzheimer's... Again, hard on David's wife, Cheryl, but a very sweet death.
So praise God for you and (your wife's) godly work.
Really, there's no other way to die. Mary Lee and I had our babies at home, which some of our children are now doing. So we're believers in birth and death getting de-professionalized, returning to heartbreak, tears, love, service, and silence.
Then a friend, a Titus 2 woman in our church who grew up in India a missionary's child, sent on this link. It's excellent. Read it. Then bring your loved ones home to die.