Carolyn Custis James is right...
The Carolyn Custis James who's made a name for herself dissing housewives and puffing theologettes has moved on to opposing spiritual abuse. In a post titled, "The Enablers of Spiritual Abuse... or when silence isn't golden," Ms. Custis James writes:
In July, when I was in the airport and spotted an abandoned backpack, I didn’t assume it was someone else’s responsibility. I knew the drill. “If you see something, say something.” So I did.
One of the many disturbing aspects of spiritual abuse and a prime reason that it thrives unchecked in so many churches and in highly respected Christian institutions and ministries is because instead of “saying something” when signs of abuse surface, we take the path of least resistance.
“If you see or hear something, mind your own business!”
Ms. Custis James is exactly right. The most wicked spiritual abuse suffered by sheep is pastors and elders who see sin and recognize error, yet betray their calling by saying nothing to oppose it. Take feminism, for instance... it's a soul-destroying heresy rampant in the Reformed church today, and as Ms. Custis James says, pastors and elders are silent. Seeing the growth of this wickedness, they "mind their own business" and that business is numbers and money.
In other words, it is precisely the safe space created by abusive pastors and elders that Ms. Custis James so vociferously occupies and exploits.
May God give us faithful shepherds who refuse this path of least resistance and join the Apostle Paul admonishing all those feminists among us, and with tears:
Therefore, I testify to you this day that I am innocent of the blood of all men. For I did not shrink from declaring to you the whole purpose of God. Be on guard for yourselves and for all the flock, among which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to shepherd the church of God which He purchased with His own blood. I know that after my departure savage wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock; and from among your own selves men will arise, speaking perverse things, to draw away the disciples after them. Therefore be on the alert, remembering that night and day for a period of three years I did not cease to admonish each one with tears. (Acts 20:26-31)