Engaged at last...

Last night Niek and Therese Schreuder hosted a party in celebration of the engagement of their daughter, Réze (pronounced reesa), to our son Taylor. What Christmas joy!

In Calvin's Geneva, couples were banished if their engagement lasted longer than six weeks. We held a family council some years back and decided the Bayly limit would be six months. A summer wedding is planned.

Tim Bayly

Tim serves Clearnote Church, Bloomington, Indiana. He and Mary Lee have five children and fifteen grandchildren.

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I was engaged for 11 months, but I think that was prior to the family council. :)

Very happy for them. Congratulations and merry Christmas, Pastor Bayly! 

We held a family council some years back and decided the Bayly limit would be six months.

That is a wise policy.

Well, this explains Taylor's recent FB status. 

Congratulations to the happy couple and their families. 

Congratulations, old friend! And congratulations to you too, Réze! Although I kinda think I may have seen it coming... :-)

Sincerely,

Merry Christmas dear friends and congratulation on your new daughter.

Thinking of a myriad of memories with you as I write this.  Bless you all!!  Love from friends forever...

My married daughters all had short engagements, with parental encouragement and endorsement.  Their testimony is that such policy is very, very good.

Blessings to all this Christmas! On the backside of a glorious Midnight Mass  at St. Athanasius parish, and now a rich morning of gift exchanges within a gathered family of 14, we are all headed for naps while the turkey bakes, looking forward (we, not the turkey) to a grand turkey and ham feast this evening. It's no doubt a rinky-dink affair compared with the Marriage Supper of the Lamb, but it's good to practice for that event, dontcha think?

Congratulations to the Schreuder and Bayly families, especially to Réze and Taylor. This will probably be one Christmas that the happy couple won't forget!

P.S. Hope you will all be safe and not lose power - Blizzard Warning w/10-14 in snow expected shortly in your area if it hasn't already started.

Congratulations Taylor and Réze! Praise God for His goodness! Praying for you both.

Love,

Ben

My feeling is, if they are old enough to marry they are old enough to decide the length of their own engagement. No hovercraft parenting for me! Adults are adults, and if they are not adults, they shouldn't be marrying.

Congrats!

Congratulations!  My wife and I were engaged seven months, wish it would have been less.

According to Sex, Marriage, and Family in John Calvin's Geneva, Calvin insisted that engagements last no longer than six weeks (pages 416-417).

This is from the 1546 marriage ordinance:

"After the promise is made, let the marriage not be delayed for more than six weeks; otherwise let the parties be called to the Consistory to be admonished. If they do not obey, let them be remanded before the Council to be compelled to celebrate it..."

Yet more proof of the Bayly family's liberal bent!

>>more than six weeks...

Thanks, Stephen; I corrected the post.

Love,

M. Karin says:

My feeling is, if they are old enough to marry they are old enough to decide the length of their own engagement. No hovercraft parenting for me! Adults are adults, and if they are not adults, they shouldn't be marrying.

But God says:

Hear, my son, your father's instruction
And do not forsake your mother's teaching --Proverbs 1:8

Hear, O sons, the instruction of a father,
And give attention that you may gain understanding --Proverbs 4:1

My son, observe the commandment of your father
And do not forsake the teaching of your mother --Proverbs 6:20

Taylor, your attention to the commandment of your father in this and other things has been no small encouragement to me.  You're a faithful man; may you mature in faithfulness as you care for Réza and the children the Lord brings you.

Love,

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