Teach daughters not to be brash and sons not to be effeminate...

Those who oppose the egalitarian feminist heresy are often accused of believing that every woman should submit to every man. This is a straw man. God has established many authorities we submit to each day and one of them is not that every woman submit to every man. The very idea is preposterous and that's why feminists trot it out. Take traffic on city streets, for instance: add to the rules of the road that every other car is now required to submit to the vehicle on its right and imagine the traffic jams!

Which is to say this is a bogus problem deceptively trotted out by those looking to make God's Order of Creation look so monstrous that every woman despairs and becomes a rebel and every man is embarrassed and becomes a gelding.

But to say there is no authority-subordinate relationship between every man and every woman is not to say there's no universal standard of relationship between men and women. In other words, the relationship between man and woman is never asexual.

Every man made in the image of God is either a man or a woman; and every man or woman testifies to his sexual nature in every contact with a member of the opposite sex--either by faithfully confessing the Order of Creation or by rebelling against it. In fact, this distinction God blessed us with is so basic--so fundamental and foundational--that we never stop testifying to our faithfulness or rebellion...

A woman relating to a man should relate to him in a way that is... womanly just as a man relating to a woman should relate to her in a way that is manly.

Normally we call such sex-specific behavior either "masculine" or "feminine." And until recently, we had words we used to describe behavior that failed to honor our own sexuality. We should keep our eye on the ball and, for Christians, this means watching the words that are being killed. Two stand out in this regard--'brash' and 'effeminate.'

Women who want to be feminine and fathers who want to raise feminine daughters will understand that brash is bad. Similarly men who want to be masculine and mothers who want to raise masculine sons will understand effeminacy is bad.

Teach your daughters the nature of feminine deference and your sons the nature of masculine responsibility and leadership.

Rebekah and Job are good examples to start with:

Rebekah lifted up her eyes, and when she saw Isaac she dismounted from the camel. She said to the servant, “Who is that man walking in the field to meet us?” And the servant said, “He is my master.” Then she took her veil and covered herself. (Genesis 24:64, 65)

I was eyes to the blind and feet to the lame. I was a father to the needy, and I investigated the case which I did not know. I broke the jaws of the wicked and snatched the prey from his teeth. (Job 29:15-17)

Tim Bayly

Tim serves Clearnote Church, Bloomington, Indiana. He and Mary Lee have five children and fifteen grandchildren.


Movies have gotten this so wrong recently. In recent Pixar movie Brave, the heroine couldn't hold my interest because after casting off traditional femininity, the heroine became hard to root for. Roger Ebert nailed it: " "Brave" seems at a loss to deal with her as a girl and makes her a sort of honorary boy". When you reject deference, beauty, motherhood, and modesty, you are left with so much less than what God created as good. 

A close friend has a daughter who is one of the service acadamies and will soon graduate into military leadership.  How would your call to masculinity and femininity play out for her?  I am also thinking that there is a warning to fathers in this situation. 

Dear Todd, I'll leave it to military men to answer your questions, but don't hold your breath. Christian men and women in the military risk being passed over if they confess their faith in public. Love,

> How would your call to masculinity and femininity play out for her? 

She will be in a culture which will encourage her to cultivate the masculine virtues and neglect the feminine virtues.  Ironically while doing this she will contribute to the ongoing feminization of the military in which very little will be permitted to be as it ought.

I'm a career military officer with 22+ years active and reserve, and I'm currently deployed overseas. I have two daughters and a son. I would cautiously encourage my son to serve for a time. There is no way I would want my daughters to.

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