For one family, this was a very sad Father's Day...
Here's a letter written by father of three, Tom Ball, explaining why he planned to set fire to himself. The letter was received by the New Hampshire Sentinel this past Thursday morning, June 16th--one day after Mr. Ball burned himself to death in front of the Cheshire County Courthouse in Keene, New Hampshire.
Despair is evil and suicide more so, but it's worth reading Mr. Ball's very long letter to understand the policeman/judge/social worker troika feminists have so successfully employed to destroy millions of homes, robbing many more millions of children of their fathers. Likely every last one of us reading this apologia knows at least several fathers who have been arrested or had their children taken from their home without warrant. And Mr. Ball is right--it will only get worse.
Note particularly Mr. Ball's failed efforts to get official stats on domestic violence arrests; but also his stats on the percentage of domestic batteries and murders committed by men and women. Our good readers must be reminded again and again that domestic violence is an equal opportunity employer.
(TB)
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Looks like Mr. Ball is the author of the article. The man who wrote the letter is unidentified.
Dear Amanda,
Actually, news reports indicate the man who died was Tom Ball.
Love,
In other news today, a mother in Texas lost custody of her three children for spanking (with the hand, no belt or other instrument was use according to the report I read). She will be on probation for five years and us required to take parenting classes(!). What I truly do not understand is that she plead guilty to a felony charge.
Was there a plea deal? A mother or father might plead guilty because pleading innocent and losing may mean losing more than when pleading guilty.
In a lose-lose, you're left having to decide between the "high road" where there is a great probability you'll lose your children, or take the "low road" and keep them.
But she didn't keep them. She lost custody
Kamilla, will you please link the article? I am interested in reading more.
This is a sad story, and I cannot imagine what impact this will have on his kids who are now roughly 17, 14 and 11. My heart goes out to them.
http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/texas-mother-loses-childrens-custody-for-spanking-daughter
Here it is!
I see. I read the linked article...not going to go into this...so let me just speculate :)
From the article:
"As part of the deal, she is required to take parenting classes and pay $50 to the Children’s Advocacy Center."
So there was a plea deal.
"The three children have been placed in the paternal grandmother’s custody until the Department of Family and Protective Services determines that Gonzales is ready to have them back."
I wonder what the other option was? Apparently she, and her lawyer, felt this was the best option. Looks to me like she probably took the "safest" of the lose-lose options in the hopes of getting her kids back.
Another story worth considering which I just picked up on.
http://blackstarnews.com/news/135/ARTICLE/7472/2011-06-20.html
Make sure you watch the video of Mr. Sheu. Just google "Sunny Sheu" for more.
The paternal grandmother is the one who took the child to the hospital when she noticed a red bottom. Wonder what her agenda was. Once she gets her children back that would be one grandparent who WOULD NOT have further access to her grandchildren and if she did it would be closely supervised.
Regarding the Texas spanking case...
This appears to be a custody battle. The father's mother brought the spanking issue to the forefront so the mother would lose custody.
Call me judgmental, but somehow it seems that a judge who declares, contrary to the law, that spanking is against the law ought to be looking for a new career, preferably one available to the disbarred.
Back to the issue of Tom Ball, I respectfully disagree with my father. I don't believe that it was despair, but pride, which motivated this man to commit suicide. He had every reason for despair, assuming the details of his letter are true, but there is little evidence of despair. Despair implies grief, and there's not a hint of grief in his letter. Rather than lamenting his situation, and seeking to restore himself as head of his household, he ground in his heels and in his own words, "refused to lift a finger" to save his marriage.
And according to his account, his wife is a weak woman. If she, as he said, was seeking to protect their children from the state (not HIM), then he should have stepped in and protected her from the folly of her own decisions, not begun a years-long custody battle with her.
Although I agree with him on many political points, it seems clear to me that his life--and his death--revolved around one thing: his pride. This was not about his children, but about him.
Thank you, Michal; I do believe you're right.
Love,
I tend to agree with Michal, but some men tend to mourn their losses in this kind of cold manner. For example, my father and mother divorced nearly 30 years ago, and you would assume one thing (exactly what Michal assumed, as did I, when reading Tom Ball's note) from what he says, but if you watch what he did around my mother, you'd pick up pretty quick that behind the facade, he's still a broken man from the divorce. There are some wounds that a man just doesn't get over, even if men generally can't show it.
For that matter, speaking of wounds that don't heal, a guy named Orenthal is said to be confessing the murder of his wife now. That conscience is a robust thing, evidently.
To clarify what I wrote, what I'm getting at is that at times, I've heard my dad speak just as dispassionately as Tom Ball wrote about his experiences. That said, when he was around my mom when she was dying, I could clearly tell that under the hard facade, there was an affection for her that still hasn't died. He came to my home with a memory stick with pictures of the family, and...let's just say, again, that a hard facade can't hide the fact that some wounds just don't heal.
I've had similar experiences with my mom, my stepfather, and a lot of other divorced people. A hard facade is maintained, but if the other person does something really wild and crazy--like conversing with the person in love--that facade can be breached quite quickly.
Pride? Absolutely. Crushed heart? Arguably as well.
Yes, Michal, I agree w/ you. I did not detect despair but a clear mind, angry yes, but calculating. His theory of the 2nd set of books in the justice system is alarming and sobering and not easily dismissed. We are too often now hearing of the interference into private situations by the "authorities" and the abuse of authority, albeit many times with the best of intentions. Just more evidence of the gradual decline in our willingness or ability to govern ourselves and our relinquishing personal responsibility to governmental control. I wept after reading this article - for the man, his children, and Man.
The spanking story was on O'Reilly Factor last night. He discussed it with his "legal" panel of 2 women. One of the women wanted to hold onto her right to spank if needed but stated she would never actually do it. O'Reilly and the other woman stated that hitting a child is never right. There are better ways such as talking the problem out. They all 3 agreed that spanking a child under the age of 2 was totally inappropriate. (I'd love to hear them talk the problem out with a 2 year old!) One thing I remind myself when I hear these discussions: none of those 3 raise their kids 24/7 since they obviously work at least part time.
According to my intensive research, reports that OJ confessed to Oprah are false.
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