Naturally, unbelievers are opposed to discipline...

(Tim, w/thanks to David L.) While we're on the subject of "Duh!" studies, Pediatrics just released a study demonstrating that medical doctors and their researchers think the word 'hit' (as in "parents who hit their child") is synonymous with the word 'spank' (as in "parents who spank their child").

Time reports:

Compared with children who were not hit, those who were spanked were more likely to be defiant, demand immediate satisfaction of their wants and needs, get frustrated easily, have temper tantrums and lash out physically against others.

Rather than spanking, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends "time outs."

And now a pastoral word to parents: if you're not inclined to trust paleontologists on the age of the earth or women's studies professors on the meaning of femininity, why would you trust your pediatrician on raising godly Covenant children?

In all sorts of areas of our lives, our choice is...

simple: either we trust the Word of God or we trust experts who get paid to have opinions the world likes and prove them with studies that will provide the world with smug self-affirmation. The discipline of our precious children is just one more of those areas, and it's way too important to allow these Cretans any influence inside the Christian home.

Scripture says much about the rod of discipline:

He who withholds his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him diligently. (Proverbs 13:24)

Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of discipline will remove it far from him. (Proverbs 22:15)

Do not hold back discipline from the child, Although you strike him with the rod, he will not die. 14 You shall strike him with the rod And rescue his soul from Sheol. (Proverbs 23:13, 14).

Trust the Word of God and your sons and daughters will live. Trust godless experts with degrees and your sons and daughters will die.

This is not to say all uses of spanking are godly. Absolutely not! Many mothers and fathers use spanking for the release of their own anger, and this is sin calling for intervention by the other parent or the church, if necessary. Nevertheless, the improper use of any tool does not invalidate its proper use, and nowhere is this clearer than the question of child discipline.

Remember, our Lord told us: “For truly I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away, not the smallest letter or stroke shall pass from the Law until all is accomplished" (Matthew 5:18). What is recorded above concerning the rod of discipline is much more than "the smallest letter or stroke" of the Law.

Trust God, mothers and fathers. Use the rod of discipline so that the soul of your sons and daughters may live. And if you're fearful of your temper or unsure of the best method, talk to your pastor, your elders, or your churches' Titus 2 women.

We have been called by God to help you.

Comments

On the World Magazine blog awhile back, there was a professed Christian woman insisting that spanking (she called it "hitting," of course) is wrong and, when presented with the Scriptural witness cited above, argued that these are *proverbs and not *commands*. I think she also asserted that, when the Bible speaks elsewhere of "discipline," it doesn't necessarily mean physical discipline. What can you say to someone who thinks like this?

Given that there are any number of psychological effects of actual abuse and violence not associated with "physical discipline," it would seem that the APA is bent on ruining their credibility--as they do on various other subjects routinely, including firearms.

And then they wonder why a lot of parents don't trust them anymore in areas of their (at least supposed) core competency--things like vaccines. I have given most vaccines to my children, but sad to say, it certainly wasn't because of the CDC cartoons our family was given to "prove" the need for them.

Given the near epic failure of modern parenting techniques, one might expect our experts to exhibit a little more humility when assessing the methods employed by previous generations.

It's definitely not just unbelievers who don't believe in the Bible when it comes to child training.

My children, whom we spanked, have complete confidence in the Word of God on this one. They know that little children that they like to be around as interesting, unique, knowable persons, are also children that are disciplined with the rod. "Brats", are what you call those other children, that you do not like to be around, and therefore, you are not drawn to know them as their ill behavior unfortunately becomes the narrow way you see them.

The believer must walk by faith in the promises of God.

We have found spanking and timeouts to be effective.

The Bible very clearly (as quoted above) insists that a parent use a rod to discipline a child. I'm curious to know whether the parents who follow this course of discipline use actual rods. If not, and if the choice to deviate from the very literal interpretation of the Bible (rods) to include something else (hand) is OK, then why is it not OK to deviate from the literal interpretation by using verbal (and not physical) discipline techniques?

I feel a Princess Bride quote coming on . . .

Across the board, I've observed that when children aren't spanked, they're brats. I don't think I know of a case where that is not true. "Time outs" (or whatever you want to call them...I really hate that term!) and revoked privileges have their place, but when spanking is not at the core of disciplining a child, you might as well throw everything other method out the door, too.

>>why is it not OK to deviate from the literal interpretation by using verbal (and not physical) discipline techniques?

Every parent uses "verbal discipline techniques." And so they should. That's not the question.

Rather, the question is whether those things God commands and Scripture approves of may be opposed or avoided by the godly. And in the case of spanking, the answer is "no."

Love,

While there may be a barb in Carter's comment, I have to admit there is a legitimate question over the method. While I personally use my hand so I don't inflict real injury, the Scripture does say "rod." I've seen families with a rod, or a leather strap, trying to get closer to what Proverbs notes.

I'm also personally bummed that I haven't found a lot of good commentary on the method. So if anyone has some good links, that would be great.

I'm chuckling at your comment, Bike Bubba, because my mom just grabbed whatever was closest...wooden spoon, hairbrush, shoe...hahaha! So, those were her "methods." :)

We were given a "rod" by a family member many years ago...it was a canoe paddle with a shortened handle. It looked scary, but had a large enough surface to disperse the impact onto a wider area. Our children say it was effective. (three of the four are teens now) I've never liked using my hand, partially because it hurts me, so that was a deterrent for me to properly discipline - I would threaten to do it instead of actually doing it when I should. Also, the walk upstairs to our bedroom would give me a minute to collect myself and (hopefully) administer the spanking properly. I did get a bit lazy with our last one, though. When he was about 3, he was in a cart at Wal-Mart in the check-out lane and, pointing to the wooden spoons, yelled, "Paddle!" So embarrassing!

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