I wouldn't want that for my own daughters...
Robert Egan, owner of Hackensack, New Jersey's, barbecue restaurant, Chubby's, has appointed himself peacemaker-in-chief between North Korea and these United States. The October 8, 2007 New Yorker had a profile of Egan and his particular brand of chef-and-shuttle diplomacy. The piece ends with Egan comparing North Korea and these United States:
This is what I like--the North Koreans ...are very family-oriented. And they have a better take on a man's role and a woman's role than we do. I think a lot of women in this country are trying to be men, and I think that could be the downfall of the family structure of this society. But, in North Korea, the man goes to work and the woman raises the family. Now, I wouldn't want that for my own daughters--I want them to be career girls, not dependent on any man but me--but in my own life I like the fact that a guy's a guy and a girl's a girl. You feel like a man when you are in North Korea. (p. 69)
Egan sounds pretty much like today's run-of-the-mill conservative Christian father who likes his own male perquisites alright, but at the same time wants his daughter to be impervious to the failures of any husband she may marry. So off she goes to college, graduate school, and her career. For himself, he wants a real wife and a real mother for his children. But for his daughters, he wants success, security, and independence.
Is this the life of faith?
Look at whatever alumni magazines you get--we're on the lists of Covenant College, Taylor University, Westmont College, and Wheaton College--and note...
how being a helpmate and mother is dead, dead, dead in the trumpeting of the institution's graduates. Rather, the women puffed are doctors, lawyers, non-profit executives, researchers, professors--anything but wives and mothers.
Really, the typical evangelical college today has made an idol of the sort of excellence the world recognizes and rewards. And consequently, the women who graduate, marry, and raise their children--those who used to call themselves "housewives"--are completely hidden. Hidden except to their husbands, children, pastors ...and of course, our loving Heavenly Father.