Children are a blessing

Children are a blessing from the Lord: Jackson Tyndale Bayly...

Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. (Psalms 127:4)

Announcing the birth of Jackson Tyndale Bayly to Taylor and Réze Bayly. Jackson was born around 10 AM this morning and weighs enough. He is Taylor and Réze's first child. (Our fifteenth grandchild.)

Please join us in praising God for His many good gifts, not the least of which are daughters and daughters-in-law who joyfully bear children to the glory of God.


The baby box...

Wondering why Christians adopt so many children? Watch this video and give thanks to God for the lovingkindness and tender mercies He pours out on this world through His people. Set up a baby box in your own town and see what little blessings He sends your way.


Children are a blessing from the Lord: Knox Quillen Crum...

We've been missing.

What's this "we," white boy?

Oh alright, then; I've been missing, but I do wish others had helped. Where have David and Joseph and Lucas and Gary and Andrew and Jake—all the guys we've invited to contribute—been?

Who knows. Christmas. New Years. Travel. Family reunions. Snow and ice. Visits from relatives. Global colding.

And babies—always more babies. Several little blessings have been sent to Clearnote, Bloomington, recently, but let's pay particular attention to that little boy you see there, born to our son-in-law and daughter, Ben and Michal Crum. Delivered at home Friday, January 3rd, Knox Quillan (cub) Crum weighed 9 pounds, 8 ounces and is our fourteenth grandchild (with another on the way in a couple months, Lord willing). Mother and baby are doing very well, praise God, and father and two brothers are pleased as punch.

With joy and thanksgiving to God Who closes and opens the womb.


Finish training your sons and daughters here in Bloomington...

Here's an interesting article on manhood today. (Or should I say boyhood?) It's the Wall Street Journal so maybe their paywall will keep you out? Teaser:

Except perhaps in very conservative communities, men with sufficient social skills can find sex and companionship without need of a matrimonial commitment (and for those who lack social skills, a willingness to marry is unlikely to provide much compensation). The culture's unrelenting message—repeated in Hymowitz's article—is that women are doing fine on their own. If a woman doesn't need a man, there's little reason for him to devote his life to her service.

George Gilder said it all back in the seventies in a book titled Sexual Suicide (since updated and retitled Men and Marriage). But you know, George Gilder is gauche. Admitting you've read him is sort of like admitting to being a collector of Dennis Rodman memorabilia or a fan of Charles Murray. Anyhow, did you get that "except perhaps in very conservative communities?"

Sadly, I'm not sure Protestant Reformed churches qualify any longer.

In our experience here in a university community where we watch college students individuate from their PCA and Reformed Baptist (including SBC) parents, the prevailing message of Reformed parents to their college and grad student children is that a good education trumps sexual purity and holiness. Of course, they don't put it so honestly. Instead, they tell their daughter that she must...


Sweet dreams, Mommy...

So to all those who don't know the word 'jaded,' this just sent to one mother by one of her daughters who is now a mother of four herself. It was accompanied by this note: "It's very sweet and well-done, just short peeks into the lives of 3 mothers. I read the comments of women saying it helped them not to feel so conflicted and guilty about staying home with their kids. They made me want to write and say thank you. I'm so glad that you were at home with us, Mom. ...And I'm thankful that, because of the way you raised me, I have the ability to do my work without nagging questions or guilt about what else I should be doing. I love you!"

The following excerpt is from Chesterton's "The Emancipation of Domesticity" in his splendid, What's Wrong with the World. This is an essay I believe every father should read aloud to his daughters after they've had their third child. (My dear Mary Lee says the third is the most difficult because it's the first time husband and wife are outnumbered.)

Honestly, I have no desire to speak with the husband or father who can't understand and doesn't love this essay no matter how fast he can say sovereignty/providential/imputation three times in a row. True Christian faith proves itself by its fruit which, according to Scripture, always starts at home. And what greater fruit does any man give to God than his manly support of the motherhood of his wife and their flat-out commitment to everything needed to raise up godly seed?

Mothers are the greatest!

So now, this dose of ...


Why Evangelical and Reformed gnostics hate Doug Wilson, RCJR, and Doug Phillips...

One longtime friend of Baylyblog commented under Pastor Wegener's post, "What's up with the Aquilla report...". First quoting another's criticism of Doug Phillips, Ross followed with his own question:

//Maybe because Doug Phillips was a legalist who majored in minors and encouraged people to live by an increasingly strict set of man made rules?//

With an eye to the reputation Bill Gothard got for himself, is this comment about Doug and the Vision Forum ministry a fair one? (I don't know, honest).

To which I respond:

Ross, the other thing worth saying about Doug Phillips, RCJR, and Doug Wilson—the three patriarchalists that female feminists claiming to be Christians live to gossip about and spit on—is that, in the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king.

But let's change this slightly: in the land of blind Reformed Evangelicals, the one-eyed man is a monster. Evangelicals, Reformed or otherwise, hate any man who has faith, particularly when that faith is demonstrated in the most earthy and organic matters of sexual body parts and what we do or don't do with them.

Because Reformed Evangelicals are gnostic, we refuse to be pinned down with anything except words—and even those confessional words have no visible content...


Christian adoption...

Roger K. just forwarded this Times article of wonderful Christian witness titled "God called them to adopt. And adopt. And adopt." Praise God for Misty and Don!

In a few short years, the family of six had expanded to 10 — including three children with medical or psychological issues. It has helped that Misty has a high tolerance for — even thrives on — the “controlled chaos” of her big-family life. She also has unflagging energy and often manages on four hours’ sleep. On the day we first met, I momentarily mistook her for the kids’ babysitter, in her flip-flops and pink toenail polish, a tiny faux diamond stud in her nose that matches her daughter Lauren’s.

Jon is an involved father who spends hours with the kids, coaching his oldest son’s wrestling team, dirt-biking with his teenagers and skateboarding with the younger ones.


The Church and the family...

Last week, Mary Lee and I joined Pastor Jerid Krulish and his wife, Aria, and the souls of Westminster Presbyterian Church (PCA) in Vancouver, Washington, for their 2013 Annual Heritage Conference. It was a great weekend and we appreciated the kind hospitality of all, but especially Elder Tom Berkompas and his wife, Cindy, and their wonderful chilldren who fed and coffeed us to our heart's content.

Here are the titles of the messages...


On the links with a Sabbath stick...

Son Joseph writes: Despite the interesting titles, I know I can't just dump four links on you, so I've included teaser quotes...

Last week Deadspin ran six sentences and a picture under the headline “Philip Rivers Is An Intense Weirdo.” The final two sentences about the San Diego Charger quarterback were blunt: "And he’s also about to have his seventh kid. There are going to be eight people with Rivers DNA running around this world."

Ah yes. How “intensely weird” it is for an NFL player to be having...

Tonight, Daddy belongs to her...

Now tell me, at the end of your life, what is it you will have chosen instead of gobs and oodles and scads of children? Didn't you know God Himself says "Happy is the man whose quiver is full of them?"


Grandchildren...

Here are the thirteen grandchildren God has blessed us with, at a birthday party at our house last night. Our eldest grandchild, Jonathan Ummel, is holding day-old Jerome Weeks. 


Children are a blessing from the Lord: Jerome Alexander Weeks...

Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward. (Psalms 127:3)

This morning at 3 AM, Jerome Alexander Weeks was born to our son-in-law and daughter, Lucas and Hannah Weeks. Jerome joins two brothers and one sister, Aubrielle holding Jerome, and twelve other grandchildren with three on the way. Mother and son are doing well, praise God!


Fatherhood outside St. Mary's and inside Walmart...

(Prince) William says he practiced making sure the car seat fit securely before driving off. "Driving your son and your wife away from hospital was really important to me," he said.

Standing in line at Walmart, I watched a normal Joe ahead of me buying his daughter her school supplies. The man helped his eight-year-old daughter transfer pencils, notebooks, and other stuff I didn't recognize from the cart onto the small 20-items-or-less checkout counter. Halfway through the piling up, the girl looked up at her Dad and demonstrated her budding gift for commanding the male sex: "Dad, let me do it!"

He acted like he hadn't heard and, thankfully, Her Royal Highness didn't protest again. Last on the pile was the annual backpack with this year's graphics and colors. Then, having accomplished her part of the mission, the girl walked a few feet and sat down on a bench from whence she surveyed her domain and awaited her father's duty of paying for her life and happiness. You know, money.

Dad wasn't tall and wore shorts hanging down to his calves. Nothing notable in his looks or clothing, nor in the way he fulfilled the privileges of fatherhood. As he ran his credit card and punched buttons, the cashier smiled and asked if school was starting this week?

He said "yup, Tuesday" and they exchanged conspiratorial looks of knowingness. I thought for a second about getting down on my knees and pleading with this innocent father not to send his precious daughter...


God protects widows and orphans; blesses with fruitfulness and long life...

In my reading this morning, I took delight in several texts. First, this concerning our Heavenly Father's personal care for the widow and orphan:

You shall not afflict any widow or orphan. If you afflict him at all, and if he does cry out to Me, I will surely hear his cry; and My anger will be kindled, and I will kill you with the sword, and your wives shall become widows and your children fatherless. - Exodus 22:22-24)

Oppression of the fatherless leads to...


Proud grandfather...

Our daughter-in-law, Heidi Bayly, took this pic of the grandchildren at Taylor and Réze's wedding a couple weeks ago. Twelve now, with three more on the way—all blessings from God!


Clearnote Summer Conference: your children will love it...

“She is our mother.” What a description of the Church—God’s gift to us, His adopted sons, for our care, discipline, and nurture. In a world that hates the Church, we need to stand as witnesses to God’s faithfulness. What better witness do we have than when we love some of the most precious God gives us: children! 
Camp Clearnote

The Clearnote Summer Conference is designed to love, teach, and care for the whole body—especially the very youngest. While mothers and fathers are sitting under the preaching of the Word, your children will be taught and challenged with Bible lessons explaining God’s purposes and works through Camp Clearnote.

We have a busy, fun, and profitable time planned for children of every age.

For our littlest ones, ages 0-3, we have age-appropriate facilities and caring volunteers. With a ratio of less than five children per childcare worker, you can know that your child will have the attention he needs. Even if it is your first time with us, you and your children will feel right at home...


Day care back in 1649...

Back in 1649, Jeremy Taylor, author of the spiritual classic The Rule and Exercises of Holy Living and the Rule and Exercises of Holy Dying, preached a sermon titled "Of nursing Children, in imitation of the blessed Virgin-Mother." Here's an excerpt proving it's nothing new for Christian women to bear children, then repudiate motherhood leaving their own sons and daughters exposed on the hillside of daycare. Thus it is that their abandoned wee ones become, as Taylor puts it, "foster-children (who) are dearer to the nurse than to the mother."

Bishop Taylor's writing is hard for us today both because of its turgidity and it's directness. Concerning its directness, though, the Church today desperately needs a revival of such pastoral care and rebuke from her pulpits.

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Upon these propositions I shall infer, by way of instance, that it is a duty, that women should nurse their own children. For, first, it is taught to women by that instinct which nature hath implanted in them. For, as Phavorinus the philosopher discoursed, it is but to be half a mother to bring forth children, and not to nourish them; and it is some kind of abortion, or an exposing of the infant, which, in the reputation of all wise nations, is infamous and uncharitable...


Why is there no ADHD in France...

Sons want structure and authority. They rebel against parents who don't provide them. And do I really have to say that by "structure and authority" I'm not talking about haranguing, berating, demeaning, or beating our sons? Abuse destroys structure and authority.

Here's a helpful article outlining the difference between the diagnosis and treatment of undisciplined behavior in these United States and France.


The difference between pro-life and anti-antiabortion...

If there’s one thing I have been convinced of over the years, it’s that some Pro Life® organizations try balancing an apparent allegiance to God’s “no” with a false notion of propriety. I say “balance," but what it comes down to is that some of these organizations absolutely will not ever say “no,” but then they’ll tell you “no!” when you actually say God’s “no”…you know?

Saying God’s “no” is antithetical to the peace they enjoy, but their peace is only what the world has to offer. God's "no" disrupts the equilibrium of an otherwise airy existence...

But then when someone else says God’s “no," it draws attention to the fact these Pro Life® groups won't say "no," and it’s embarrassing, really. Why they refuse to say “no” is quite principled, we’re assured; but I think it boils down to the following:

  • A false sense of propriety, and
  • Self-preservation

Some may balk at my number two, but keep in mind that there is no Pro Life® movement unless abortion continues. There are ministries and careers to preserve—not just babies. But more, no one wants to give money to organizations that are impolite. These groups need our money for their salaries.

Take, for instance, Oklahoma's Holy Innocents Foundation (HIF), a group dedicated to the adoration of the Eucharist on behalf of the unborn...