Adoption

Christian adoption...

Roger K. just forwarded this Times article of wonderful Christian witness titled "God called them to adopt. And adopt. And adopt." Praise God for Misty and Don!

In a few short years, the family of six had expanded to 10 — including three children with medical or psychological issues. It has helped that Misty has a high tolerance for — even thrives on — the “controlled chaos” of her big-family life. She also has unflagging energy and often manages on four hours’ sleep. On the day we first met, I momentarily mistook her for the kids’ babysitter, in her flip-flops and pink toenail polish, a tiny faux diamond stud in her nose that matches her daughter Lauren’s.

Jon is an involved father who spends hours with the kids, coaching his oldest son’s wrestling team, dirt-biking with his teenagers and skateboarding with the younger ones.


But isn't homosexual adoption better than foster care...

A reader commented asking whether I would not prefer a child be adopted by a homosexual couple than to live in foster care. To which I respond:

As for sodomite adoption as an alternative to foster care, one evil doesn't justify another. And no, I would not myself rather be adopted by a sodomite pair than to be in the home of a loving, Christian foster father and mother. Even a loving non-Christian foster father and mother. Even an unloving non-Christian foster father and mother. Even an unloving non-Christian foster father. Even an unloving non-Christian foster mother. Even an unloving non-Christian orphanage of ten-thousand. Even the streets of Rio de Janeiro.

Imagine growing up with every second of every day...


Rabbi Bernheim on homosexual marriage and adoption...

This piece on the destructiveness of sodomite marriage written by the Chief Rabbi of France, Gilles Bernheim, is must reading. First Things shrunk it down somewhat from the length of the original and it's still quite long, but do read it. There are some obvious failures due to Rabbi Bernheim's denial of the Trinitarian Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. For instance, I noted in his explanation of  the theological significance of sexuality, Genesis 1:26 wasn't mentioned: "Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness..." Quite sad.

On the other hand, rarely have I read so much useable wisdom on the battle over sexuality in our world today—from the supposed "right of adoption," to the right of a child to a father and mother, to the destructiveness of our use of the word 'gender,' to the larger meaning and significance for society of these attacks upon the home. Here are some excerpts to whet your appetite...


How to legally traffic children in the USA...

Here is a case that perfectly illustrates the wickedness of our social systems today.

It's not hard to see there are major problems, but which one should we focus on? There are bribes, threats, child abandonment, contract killers, kidnapping, child-trafficking, and it's all going down in Connecticut and Michigan. The number of people involved is mind-boggling. Oh, and it's all perfectly legal.

Woman A gave up some of her eggs.

Woman B and Man C purchased those eggs and paid Doctor D to fertilize them with Man C's sperm, creating babies E, F and G at least.


The rooster rules the roost and the hen rules the rooster...

Once again, Pastor Doug Wilson blesses us with a timely and wise pastoral warning--this time on the things-aren't-always-as-they-appearingness of Christian adoptions.


Turns out children adopted by lesbian couples aren't OK after all...

How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, Nor stand in the path of sinners, Nor sit in the seat of scoffers! But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates day and night. He will be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, Which yields its fruit in its season And its leaf does not wither; And in whatever he does, he prospers.

The wicked are not so, But they are like chaff which the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, Nor sinners in the assembly of the righteous. For the LORD knows the way of the righteous, But the way of the wicked will perish. (Psalm 1)

Everyone who knows anything will tell you global warming is true; or at least likely enough to be true to justify a plate-tectonic shift in all the world's economies. Everyone agrees. Science doesn't lie.

Everyone who knows anything will tell you literalists are embarrassing to the young, restless, and Reformed entrepreneurial enterprise. It's time to climb on Jack Collins' and Tim Keller's bandwagon. It's time to join all the brilliant genomists and brilliant exegetes and embrace evolution. Everyone agrees. The high priests of the Human Genome Project and scientific exegetes don't lie.

Everyone who knows anything will tell you Scripture is stupid--an ancient collection of myths. Take, for instance, that very old myth that man was created first, then woman; and that the meaning of this fact is that woman is not to teach or exercise authority over man. Also, that same-sex intimacy is an abomination before God and that God abandons men and women to receive in their own bodies the fair or just penalty of their perversion. Everyone agrees this is not true. God's Word is a lie.

Everyone who knows anything will tell you gay parenthood is good for the children; or at least good enough to justify a plate-tectonic shift in artificial insemination, adoption, and family law. Everyone agrees. Science doesn't lie.

Then a social scientist does a study of the emotional and mental health of adult children of same-sex parents...


Our Little Brown Bear...

Josiah21Readers know our children have adopted two sons from Ethiopia and are in the process of adopting a third child. So a favorite theme of family feasts is our adoption by our Heavenly Father and our adoption of these little ones bearing His Image.

Since the fam reads, writes, and designs, they got talking and decided to do a book on adoption. They still hope to tweak it some, but here it is. It's titled Our Little Brown Bear and it features the Ummel family--Doug and Heather with their blessings Jonathan, Nathan, Bayly, Alison; and little brown bear himself, Josiah. Hope you all like it.

And for those keeping track, our children now have ten blessings from God with three more on the way (two mothers expecting and one adoption in process). What joy! (TB)


Roe v. Wade's 39th anniversary: The Lord's throne is in Heaven...

(TB: On the occasion of the thirty-ninth anniversary of Roe v. Wade, I post this message. It would please me if you would take the time to read it. Thank you.)

I remain amazed that abortion could even become a political issue in a country with pretensions to being civilized. It is as if we were to debate the merits of legalizing cannibalism, with the liberal side chanting the slogan "Keep government out of the kitchen!"

There is no danger that the other side will ever be persuaded that it is wrong; there is, however, the very real danger that we will become discouraged, worn down, and inured to an evil that should always horrify and sicken us. The erosion of our consciences is surely part of the destructiveness of this abominable "procedure."   - Joe Sobran

The Lord'€™s Throne Is in Heaven

(For the choir director; a psalm of David.) In the LORD I take refuge; how can you say to my soul, "Flee as a bird to your mountain; for, behold, the wicked bend the bow, they make ready their arrow upon the string to shoot in darkness at the upright in heart. If the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?" The LORD is in His holy temple; the LORD'€™S throne is in heaven; His eyes behold, His eyelids test the sons of men. The LORD tests the righteous and the wicked, and the one who loves violence His soul hates. Upon the wicked He will rain snares; fire and brimstone and burning wind will be the portion of their cup. For the LORD is righteous, He loves righteousness; the upright will behold His face. (Psalm 11:1-7)

Thirty one (now thirty-nine) years ago today, on January 22nd, 1973, the Supreme Court of these United States issued its infamous ruling, Roe v. Wade, in which the Court declared that a mother's intentional killing of her unborn child was a fundamental right guaranteed under our Constitution. Since that ruling, it has been a commonplace to observe that Roe v. Wade, the Court's repeal of the laws prohibiting abortion on the books of all fifty states, was simply the exercise of raw judicial power with a legal justification based upon a mist and a vapor--€”or as the Court itself might put it, emanations from penumbras.

Our Supreme Court: intentionally conniving at murder...

Since 1973, no one has made a name for himself defending Roe. v. Wade’s history, biology, ethics, logic, or justice; and only a few have been foolish enough to claim this ruling will stand the test of time...


Welcome to the family, Norton, Jasmine and Joy...

DSC_2275 Christ the Word rejoices in God having added three precious babies to our midst this week. 

Jasmine and Joy Drees are home from Florida, arriving today from Florida six weeks after birth, including four weeks of hospitalization and two weeks awaiting adoption approvals. The twins join Paul and Renee Drees together with siblings Josiah, Madalyn, Sam, Summer and Lily. We rejoice that Joy and Jasmine are healthy, and that the obstacles that hindered their coming home have been removed. God be praised.

2011-08-26 14.37.40 We're also thrilled to welcome Norton Zion Clark to our family. Norton, son of Kevin and Jennifer Clark and younger brother of Wolfgang, Stella and Joaquin, is a signal to me of what a precious gift it is when God allows a pastor to serve in one location for multiple decades. Norton's parents once played with Cheryl's and my babies. Now my children play with the Clark's babies. Joy. (DB)


Thank you, WORLD...

WORLD just went to print with a cover story mentioning our son and his wife, Joseph and Heidi Bayly, and their adopted son, Tate. (The online version of the article includes the video below.) The piece is about African adoption. Mary Lee and I have two grandsons who came to these United States from Africa and we hope to have another, soon. Doug and Heather Ummel's son, Josiah, as well as Joseph and Heidi's son, Joseph Tate Bayly VII, are both from Ethiopia and Joseph and Heidi are working towards adopting another child from Ethiopia as soon as the Ethiopian goverment does its paperwork.

It would be churlish of me to keep my recent post critical of WORLD up on Baylyblog, so I've removed it. I thank WORLD for its advocacy work on behalf of orphans in their distress. This is true religion.


Red and yellow, black and white...

A father of the fatherless and a judge for the widows, Is God in His holy habitation. - Psalms 68:5

If Jesus loves the little children, all the children of the world, what judgment of His wrath must He be preparing in the face of the wholesale slaughter of our little ones? And what does it say about our love for Him that we claim to be His adopted sons, yet are unconcerned for these little ones He loves? Has He not told us He is a Father to the fatherless?

These little ones' blood flows day by day in your own city--just down the block from your church office and almost kitty-corner to the Kroger where you do your grocery shopping. When you're driving your car filled with much-loved children on your way to home school co-op, little babies are being ripped apart inside the brick wall of that building on your left three buildings back from the stop light.

Remember? Your God is a Father to the fatherless.

India's child murders are sex-specific. So many of her little girls have been killed that for every 1,000 boys under age six, there are only 916 girls. Most of them are cut apart while in their mother's womb. Some make it to birth, though, and are starved to death. Little baby girls with toothpicks for arms and everyone knows why...


"He started disciplining me like I was one of his sons..."

(Tim, w/thanks to Taylor) Read this wonderful story and ask yourself where the church turns boys--undisciplined angry ones, at that--into men? Youth groups? Home school co-ops? Christian school science labs? Crew? Membership classes? Men's retreats?

You say your church is not a parochial school filled with inner city kids and your own fathers are the ones training their own sons. I say, "Yeah, right."

Face it. Each of our churches has a bunch of young men every bit as much in need of the discipline of playing on Bob Hurley's basketball team as the kids at St. Anthony High in Jersey City. In the ministry today, we're surrounded by man-boys whose fathers have turned their backs on them. These young men crave discipline--which is to say they crave fatherly love...


Death and life are in His mighty hands...

BaylyThanksgiving (Tim) The past two weeks the Bloomington Baylys have had sorrow and joy. Sorrow in the death of my dear cousin, John DeWalt, who succumbed to a long illness connected with diabetes. He died two weeks ago this coming Monday and some of us were able to travel to Pittsburgh for the funeral. There we grieved, and yet celebrated his homegoing with his mother, Inis (Mrs. Curtis) DeWalt, his sister Beth DeWalt, and his brother Paul DeWalt (along with Paul's wife, Patti, and their three children--Zachary, Sarah, and Jacob).

A week ago today, we had the joy of joining brother David's family in the celebration of the marriage of David's eldest son, Nathan, and his lovely bride, Aleaha (pron. a leah). It was a joyful day.

Then the past three days we've had the joy of gathering here in Bloomington for our family Thanksgiving celebration and being joined by my mother-in-law, Margaret (Mrs. Ken) Taylor. That's the pic you see above. For the record, we now have ten grandchildren. (I apologize to my dear wife, Mary Lee, for the mysterious white-out on her forehead, but otherwise it's the best pic.)

Names? Well, let's do it by families...


The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away...

Joseph:Heidi:Tate:1 (Tim) Two weeks ago, son Joseph and his wife, Heidi, were blessed by God with an unborn child. Joseph and Heidi adopted a son, Joseph Tate Bayly VII, a little over a year ago, so we were all joyful at the news of a younger brother or sister joining their family, giving Tate some company.

Sadly and joyfully, the Lord took their unborn child home this past weekend. Joseph and Heidi have faith in God's goodness and loving care, but of course it's hard. This is their fourth miscarriage and they yearn for a home filled with children. Would you please pray for them; that God would comfort them and, if He so wills, bless them with a fruitful home?

And if you're in the Indianapolis area, I encourage you to lend your support to the new church plant Joseph and Dave Abu-Sara are leading, there. ClearNote Church of Indy meets Sunday mornings...


Corrie ten Boom, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Oskar Schindler, and Leah Winandy...

(Tim, w/thanks to Alan) Now that it's safe, movies are made and books written about the men and women who feared God and took action to save the lives of Jews during the Third Reich. Corrie ten Boom and Dietrich Bonhoeffer are the best-known in evangelical circles. Oskar Schindler was the inspiration behind Steven Spielberg's Academy Awards Best Picture, Schindler's List. Too, there's the relentless (and unjustified) attack on Pope Pius XII for his purported failure to defend the Jews.

But back when Hitler was still in power and the Jews were still being slaughtered, who then was making movies about Corrie ten Boom, Oskar Schindler, or Dietrich Bonhoeffer?

No one. Our Lord made it clear prophets don't get garlands until they're dead and buried.

And while, elsewhere on this blog, the debate rages over whether any pastoral prayer should include a petition that God our Father would cause our civil magistrates to repent of their hatred of justice and mercy and bring an end to the slaughter of untold millions of unborn babies they have presided over, there are a few heroes at work in our cities today...


Taylor Isaiah Bayly I...

TaylorIsaiahBayly:2009 (Tim) Taylor played varsity soccer this past year and this pic ran in the Bloomington paper. Am I proud of my son? Yes, I am. More for his heart than soccer, though. He submits to authority! Can you imagine that? No matter how normal it is to you, it's always amazing to me. After all, I was his age a few days ago, and submission wasn't ground zero in my character traits.

If your daughters are home schooled and you think he's handsome, just send me an e-mail with proposed dowry. We're building a house.

JK.


Joseph Tate Bayly VII...

Joseph:Heidi:Mamush He predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind intention of His will... (Eph. 1:5)

(Tim) Since their return from Ethiopia where they spent two weeks, starting May 17, and picked up their son, Joseph and Heidi have been learning to be father and mother. Recently, they returned from a trip to Sawyer, Michigan and Pardeeville, Wisconsin, where they spent time with the Taylor and Staveness/Healy clans, respectively. All of us here in Bloomington have been rejoicing at God's kindness to Joseph and Heidi (and the rest of us) in giving them this wonderful child to raise as a Covenant child. What a joy he is to us!


Just trust us...

(Tim) For several weeks, now, the news has been filled with articles reassuring Americans that government medicine is inevitable and poses no danger to us. They tell us government medicine will not fund abortions except in the most extraordinary cases where any reasonable man would agree the baby must die. It will not require the wholesale slaughter of the old and feeble--what we are taught to refer to as "euthanasia." After all, termination counseling isn't mandatory; it's simply an option offered those who may find it helpful.

A front page article in the Indy Star yesterday (picked up from the LA Times, by the way) blamed Rush Limbaugh for all the fear. "Nothing bad will happen," the civil authority tells us. "Just trust us."

Trust you?

You have got to be kidding! Trust you? You can't be serious!

Look at your track record. Your government education is so bad you'd sooner die than enroll your own children in the public schools serving your neighborhood there at the White House. And this is equally true of Presidents Clinton, Bush and Obama.

Trust you?


And He will give you the desire of your hearts...

Mamush (Tim) Praise the Lord! He has seen the affliction of his beloved and comforted them! Joseph and Heidi just heard the Ethiopian court has approved their adoption of Mamush, here pictured. Lord willing, they'll be travelling to Ethiopia this Saturday to begin the process of bringing their son home. Read more about it, here.